Mental Transitions

In the beginning, I was torn between just enjoying my time with my one-year old son and being satisfied with life as a single father without complicating it. I finally adjusted to not being married and felt like I was finally able to start focusing better on work again.

As a software engineer, I had to be able to focus on details and that was the
last thing I could wrap my mind around after my seven-year marriage fell apart.
All the questions about why and how kept resonating in my head. In fact, I
tried to keep my separation a secret from the people at work even though I’m
sure they noticed there was something different about me.

There were two things that helped me maintain any kind of mental sanity.
My visits with my son were my main times to look forward to and cherish. I was
an avid jogger and (no matter what anyone else tells you), its the best therapy
you can get for free! By the time I finished my jog, even though my problems
were still there, it just felt like a had a clean mental slate. So, dating
was the absolute last thing on my mind.