Back in the Dating Saddle

With my firsy holiday as a single parent behind me
and cushioned by the support of a great family, I
decided it was time to try and piece together some
semblance of a social life. Its nice spending time
hanging out with my friends and playing basketball
at the gym. All of my friends are married and I don’t
intend on breaking up their marriages asking them to
go out on weekends with me.

So, I broke down and called the woman Jennifer that I
met at the singles dance at the end of December. It’s
ironic how those nervous feelings still resurface about
making that first call like they used to in high school.
I guess some things just don’t change no matter how old
you are. Anyway, we actually spoke for over an hour and
it was refreshing to have a casual conversation with a
female who wasn’t related.

Jennifer has had an interesting journey through life
after a failed marriage and being on the verge of
getting engaged again. She’s made a decision to just
live her life without the pressure of aiming for a
monogomous relationship. Jennifer has been dating
for the past ten years and just enjoys playing the
field. She’s content with her career as an insurance
company manager, hanging out with her circle of friends,
and her yoga classes. I think I can related to that
mentality of just casual dating being very conscious
of the rebound effect.

Anyway, we both enjoy going to the movies and made
a dinner and a movie date. We both openly acknowledge
that we’ll still be attending the Dick Syatt singles
dances, so it was refreshing to take the serious
dating aspect out of the equation. The single parent
factor didn’t even come into play. She was nice enough
to always ask me about my son and that meant a lot to
me. I was surprised to hear about how many childless
woman in their 30s and 40s are turned off by that.
They’ve made the decision to never have children for
whatever reason and aren’t even interested in discussing
kids. Their career has taken first position and maybe
their time spent spoiling their nieces and nephews is
enough. Not for me to judge, just an interesting point.

So, I have my first “Chapter 2″ date next week!