Rich Single Parents & Dating

I’ve been watching the Millionaire Matchmaker series
on the Bravo station. Even though I’m positive its the
exception, its interesting to see how single fathers
who are rich search for love. There is a single parent
who has a young daughter enlist the matchmaking services
to help his dating and love life.

The woman who runs the company and oversees the matchmaking,
Patti, is a very domineering person who insists om these
millionaire men following her every rule. Her rule list is
called the Dating Commandments. She gives them wardrobe and
personal makeovers, critiques their living quarters, and even
suggests how they should make conversation and spend their
money on dates.

One guy hasn’t had a serious relationship for over ten years
and is 39 years old. These very successful men have either
one of two reactions to her overbearing approach. Some of the
men soak up the dating coaching advice since they obviously
haven’t been successful at relationships on their own. They
follow her every instruction. The other half totally resent
her trying to hand hold them and treat them as dating
and social embryos. I would think these men must have some
leadersip or assertive side to them to even achieve the success
that they have. On the other hand, some of them have been
so immersed in their businesses, that they really do lack
social skills and have neglected that part of their life.

Xander is the single parent who made his fortune in real
estate investments. He has a young daughter by a woman
he met on spring break during his college years. Xander is
setup with a nice woman who he takes on a romantic date
to a casino by limo. He even provides one-thousand dollars
of gambling money for his date. However, he was excessively
complementing his date on how beautiful she was verging
on being obsessive. I think he must have told her 19 times
how beautiful she was. That behavior won’t always lead to
a second date!

Another interesting observation is that the woman being
setup with these guys really judge them on their chemistry
and not their money. The service does a great job of weeding
out gold diggers. More often than not, the women stop dating
the millionaires after one or two dates if they don’t feel
compatible. They obviously could lead the men on and act
interested just to chase their money, but it doesn’t happen.
The men must obviously be sensitive to that factor anyway.
It was more than obvious that his dating skills were not
different than someone just let out of prison coming off
that desperate. Patti met with him afterwards to set him
straight on losing the stalker mentality and conversation.

The service also does a great job of trying to steer the men
into the appropriate age range. For instance, one of the
over 50 men decides he only wants his selection of eligible
women he’s dating to be in their late 20s. Patti refuses to
set him up with those women. That age gap may not result in
a long-term relationship and tends to leave the people with
less in common.

Finally, it’s interesting to me that the ceo and self-
proclaimed love expert of the company herself, Patti, doesn’t
appear to be in a successful relationship. She alludes to
having a boyfriend who resents seeing her so seldom because
of her intense focus on her business. Even though this is set
in California, I would think she would want to set a good
example by having a great love life herself. Not necessarily
married, but at least demonstrate that she can keep a man
happy herself and lead a semi-balanced life.

So, concerning single parents, apparently the balance of your
bank account or your net worth does not guarantee a satisfying
or successful love life. The old adage about money not being
able to buy love proves itself out once again!